I
always thought being single was much better than being married in this era that
we are living in today. I wrote an article back in January of 2017 from a single woman point a view. My perception on
marriage was denying oneself totally for the sake of a union. I must say, It’s is very sweet when we get the right
things that we deserve in life. Being married is the best thing that happen to
me, especially when you are married to your true soul mate. In this article
today I will dispel the fears of most single ladies, who are scared of getting
married.
FINANCIAL FEAR
LEVEL OF FREEDOM
Though, singles enjoy a lot of freedom to do whatever they desire. For me, most times this freedom turns out negative as some of the choices I made single were detrimental.(kicking it, staying out all night, heavy drinking, partying, getting involved with the wrong people, places and things.) I stayed running because I had nobody to be accountable to. Truly being committed to your marriage will have you stop doing some of those wrong things you did as single. Which Accountability is required if you want growth in your life. As a married woman, I seek advice from my husband thereby reducing the level of risk that I get myself involved in. Though as a married woman you will give up some of the things you usually do as single. When you have a good understanding with your spouse and you two share the same interest, you will find out that there is really nothing to lose. As you will gain all the love and attention that you will not get from the streets. I can affirm that life as a married woman is better compared to when I was still single.
BETTER HEALTH CONDITION
LONGEVITY OF LIFE
My biggest fear of getting married, was being married but still single. When I was single I dated unconsciously and selfish. I found myself in situation that felt good and looked right but at the end I was alone and single. I dated for fun, and even though I had all the benefits of being single. I realized all I was doing was wasting my own time. I started to take my own life serious and discover my own purpose in life. I got a clear understanding on where I wanted to be in life and I began to “date with purpose”. I had to put all my past behind me, push all my fears aside, and not operate off of emotions. I started to seek a life partner and not just a date. When you find that life partner it makes life so much easier. Now you have someone to share your interest, your purpose and you’re life with. Going into a marriage with divorce not being an option and being committed to overcoming all life objectives together must be a common goal. Keeping the mindset to never leave each other or walk alone because we are physically, mentally, spiritually and legally bonded through marriage. This gives me a scenes of security to know I have someone that’s willing to do life with me through the good, bad, sunny and rainy days.
FINANCIAL FEAR
Most
ladies fear that they might lose their finances once they get married. When I
was single, I thought being involved in a relationship would slow down my
progression and production. When I first meet my husband we shared our goals, dreams,
and fears. We then made each other goals
a priority within our relationship and worked together to accomplish each other
goals. From my experience, marriage will help your finances grow better than
you can imagine, with a high level of peace of mind because you have a help
meet. Though when you get married your finances becomes jointly owned by you
and your spouse. Another great advantage
is that you have a teammate. So if you were to have a loss of income, you will not have to worry as much cause you have a partner, that will
happily take care of your needs until you revive by giving you all the support
you need to get back on your feet. When I was single and had financial storms,
I felt so alone and even though I had family and friends. They were not
obligated to me and not always dependable. Being married to someone who is
willing to walk through the storms of life with you makes hard rain fell like a
drizzle.
LEVEL OF FREEDOM
Though, singles enjoy a lot of freedom to do whatever they desire. For me, most times this freedom turns out negative as some of the choices I made single were detrimental.(kicking it, staying out all night, heavy drinking, partying, getting involved with the wrong people, places and things.) I stayed running because I had nobody to be accountable to. Truly being committed to your marriage will have you stop doing some of those wrong things you did as single. Which Accountability is required if you want growth in your life. As a married woman, I seek advice from my husband thereby reducing the level of risk that I get myself involved in. Though as a married woman you will give up some of the things you usually do as single. When you have a good understanding with your spouse and you two share the same interest, you will find out that there is really nothing to lose. As you will gain all the love and attention that you will not get from the streets. I can affirm that life as a married woman is better compared to when I was still single.
BETTER HEALTH CONDITION
It
is clear that married people are overly healthier than singles. When you are
married you will always make changes in your life, to build a healthy and happy
relationship with your spouse. Now as a married person you cannot afford to
leave your beloved soul mate to carry on life. Being
married gives you a better and healthier mental state compared to being single.
This is as a result of the love you always get from your spouse at all
times. Occasionally, I might have issues
with my husband but at the end we will resolve the little issues and continue
to enjoy our lovely union. A happy couple will most times live long, this is as
result of the peace of mind that they have and they drive to stay living for
each other.
LONGEVITY OF LIFE
My biggest fear of getting married, was being married but still single. When I was single I dated unconsciously and selfish. I found myself in situation that felt good and looked right but at the end I was alone and single. I dated for fun, and even though I had all the benefits of being single. I realized all I was doing was wasting my own time. I started to take my own life serious and discover my own purpose in life. I got a clear understanding on where I wanted to be in life and I began to “date with purpose”. I had to put all my past behind me, push all my fears aside, and not operate off of emotions. I started to seek a life partner and not just a date. When you find that life partner it makes life so much easier. Now you have someone to share your interest, your purpose and you’re life with. Going into a marriage with divorce not being an option and being committed to overcoming all life objectives together must be a common goal. Keeping the mindset to never leave each other or walk alone because we are physically, mentally, spiritually and legally bonded through marriage. This gives me a scenes of security to know I have someone that’s willing to do life with me through the good, bad, sunny and rainy days.
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